10 Great Things About Having Teenagers

We are always hearing how having teenagers is tough!  And it can be!  Our children are becoming young men and women and  adolescence isn’t  always easy.    There are skin breakouts, hormones,emotions they don’t always know what to do with , and coming to grips with who they are. However, there are wonderful things about having teens that can bless us in amazing ways. These truly can be the “best years” of parenting and bring memories that will last a lifetime!

The more intentional you are with your children while they are growing up, the better things will be with your child in their teen years. 

I love being a mom.

I love caring for our children. Guiding them. Teaching them. And simply hugging them.

Motherhood is such a beautiful thing. 

But that doesn't mean I always sleep well at night. Or that I never worry.  You see, I start to wonder if I'm a good enough mother . . .  or at least the right one for this child. 

Because -- between you and me -- I sometimes agonize over these gifts I've been given. These children of mine. 

And I question whether I really have what it takes and if they're gonna turn out okay in the end.

As a New Yorker, I tend to keep my head down. Apart from the times when I break down from cold or exhaustion and hail a cab, for the most part, I walk everywhere I go. My children in tow like little ducklings, my voice click clicking every now and then to grab their attention before we cross another intersection, or to make them aware of others in the opposite "lane" on the sidewalk. I am rarely ever alone. Within the confines of my apartment building with neighbors above and below and on both sides- and certainly not outside, where others, just like me, join the masses in coffee shops or subway cars, each of us on our way to somewhere.

So you see, what is often misinterpreted as rudeness or hurry is simply a commute. We brush past others with focused attention, head down in the business of getting places on our feet instead of behind a wheel. It's all we can do to avert our eyes and get a moment of peace.

The trouble with me is, I can often forget to look up again.

"Clare, ____ is so hard. I keep trying and failing. It's a daily struggle for me. Why can't the situation be easier?"

The open blank will look different for everyone. Maybe it's an addiction of yours, a certain issue in your marriage, your weight, or your self-confidence.

I remember a revelation I had a few years ago about a struggle that I've always had--it's hard because I've not given up. It's hard because I've realized the fight is worth it.

I remember the sweet lady that brought me comfort food in the quiet hours of my second miscarriage. I told her how I wanted to trust God with a new pregnancy but I felt like I might set myself up for failure. I felt safe with her. She knew my pain well and I didn't worry about her judging me. She placed the chocolate cake on the counter and said with a soft and honest voice, "Your pregnancies will never be the same once you've gone through a miscarriage." I knew she was right and I appreciated her honesty. It was comforting to know that my struggle was a common one. I wouldn't walk this journey alone. I didn't have to feel ashamed, but I could walk alongside others.

All parents have them. All mothers have them. What are they? Those days of parenting that feel like one correction after another. One catastrophe after another.  Or maybe a solitary epic parenting moment. All of which make you feel as though you just weren't cut out for this mothering gig. Perhaps second string should be called in?

You know, parenting tales like…