Be the Best Wife You Can Be in 2022

Whether we state them as resolutions or not, most of us think through a few ways we’d like to improve each coming year. Among those goals are usually health-related improvements, better spiritual disciplines, or ways we’d like to better our mind and character. All great things to work on! But perhaps there’s one more goal we can add to our list this year: The goal of being the best wife we can be. 

Of course, no wife will ever be a perfect wife. And some of us have way harder marriages than others. Nevertheless, deep down we all know there are ways God would like to refine us and make us more holy — and we don’t always jump to make those changes when it comes to our marriages. And there are so many reasons for that. But the reality is: being a godly wife is a key role that God has given us, and he is pleased when we take it seriously and give it all we’ve got. So why not make this the year when we make some massive forward progress?!

A Worthy Goal 

As women, we have so many hats we wear and so many jobs we take on. But if we are married, being a wife is arguably our most important role. Think through the creation account. God brought the first man a wife because it wasn’t good that he was alone, and she was perfectly made to be his counterpart, his helpmate in life. From there, they together raise a family, and work, and do all the things life calls for. But the team created in that marital union is the foundation — it’s of utmost importance. It’s when two people become like one.

While none of that is new information, it’s crucial to think about it afresh in order to remember why we should take our wifely roles seriously. We need to remember that God called us to be helpmates, to be our husband’s perfect counterpart. This is an important job — a God-given job. Which means we should absolutely be working to grow in this role, even when it’s hard, even when we don’t think our husbands need or appreciate it, and even when we don’t feel like it. 

Just Move Forward a Little 

If only we could snap our fingers and become that godly, selfless, joyful, encouraging wife at all times — well, that would be amazing! But the reality is, refinement of character is a long arduous process that we’ll be working on for the rest of our lives. But that doesn’t mean we can’t move forward today. We can, and we should!

So for today, and this week, what is one thing you could work on? What is that thing you’ve been putting off that you know would speak volumes to your husband? Or if there’s no looming improvements to make, ask yourself what would truly help your husband (being that you are his helpmate). What would he say would help him? Or perhaps the best question to ask yourself is how you can better live out Proverbs 31:11-12, 

11  The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. 12 She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. 

Embodying this description is quite the goal. It’s a high bar, but it’s most definitely one we can reach for! One day at a time, one week at a time. We can all make forward progress little by little.

Yes it will be hard—becoming more holy usually is. But it will be good, and it will be worth it. It will certainly bless our husbands, but more importantly, it will please our God. 

It’s time to make whatever changes we need to make, let’s ask for God’s help, and let’s get busy one step at a time.

Praying it’s your best year yet,

Heather Pace